Single & successful is the way to be for some
By: Wes Wallace
By: Wes Wallace
CAPE GIRARDEAU, Mo. - With Internet dating sites, singles bars, and your aunt willing to set you up with that great guy or gal, there are plenty of ways to find a date.
Finding a date you actually want to take out, is a whole other story. "I don't just want to start dating someone and settle down, because that's what I feel is expected of me," says Lydia Dewees, "I want to date someone who's my equal." "If you're not excited about the bar scene, there's not many other places to find someone," says Dr. Sean Byrd.
Both Dewees and Byrd are young professionals in Cape Girardeau. Both agree it's not easy finding someone in a city that's full of college age students and married couples. Dewees serves as Director of Retail Dining for Chartwells, while Dr. Byrd helps run Skyview Animal Clinic. For right now, both place career over courting. "The hardest part, is that most of us go off to school for several years, and we're focused on starting careers, so our personal lives take a backseat to everything else,' explains Dr. Byrd.
Dewees adds, "I tend to spend a lot of time at work or doing other activities outside of work, so I don't have a lot of free time."
Case in point, Lydia got interrupted several times during our interview to take care of Chartwells business. Understandably, Dr. Byrd had to juggle us in between his 'patients.'
They both agree there's not a great many chances to meet someone special in Cape Girardeau. "When couples get married, they do couple stuff,' says Dewees, "when someone's single, they do single stuff." "The dating pool is smaller here and there's just not a lot of opportunities for people our age to meet other people our age," says Byrd.
However, over the last few months both Dewees and Byrd have been dating someone else. Dewees says it's the first time in five years she's used the term 'boyfriend'. Byrd says things in his situation are in the very early stages.