CAPE GIRARDEAU, MO (KFVS) - Parenting can be fun, but also frustrating at times. How do you prevent those frustrations from turning into out of control anger?
Scott Robison and Allison Miles just had their second baby at Saint Francis Medical Center.
"Real happy, still a little bit in shock," said Robison.
A nurse made sure the couple knew the basics like when to feed, or how to burp their newborn.
"Questions, concerns?" asked the nurse.
But the two will take their little one home, and then what?
"For me a little of healthy fear that now yeah we've got to do it on our own," said Robison.
"I'm pretty confident with this one," said Miles.
"I think I'm probably more prepared and less scared," said Robison.
But that wasn't the case with their first child.
"I was scared to death with her, I didn't know what to do I didn't know what it was like being a mom, how to be a mom," said Miles.
"I think the first day I probably looked like a deer in the headlights a little bit," said Robison.
So what if there was such a thing as a parenting manual, would it help?
"I don't know if you can be taught to be a mom," said Miles.
"Kids don't come with a handbook that tells you what to do," said Bootheel Counseling Therapist Karen Crane.
Crane said people usually parent the way their parents did while growing up.
But sometimes, you just reach that breaking point.
"Kids are going to do things, kids are noisy, kids are messy, kids often act out where you don't want them to," said Crane.
"She would cry, and sometimes it seems like she would cry endlessly and your heart is just in your throat and you don't know what to do," said Robison.
"First thing, I encourage parents to take a deep breath, calm down," said Crane.
"Lay them down in a safe place and walk away," said Miles.
All three said a support team is crucial.
They said call a friend, neighbor or even your own parent to calm down, and prevent it from going too far.
"Call somebody that can settle you down and say just take a deep breath maybe put her down for a few minutes, sometimes kids just cry and there's not much you can do about it," said Robison.
"Even a friend that you can talk with about things that can help, because you're not keeping the stuff bottled up, and lots of times if you keep those things bottled up it's going to explode in other areas," said Crane.
"Because otherwise it will get to you fast," said Miles.
"Don't let things, other external things like from your job, finances, relationship with your husband, things like that to factor into it," said Crane.
And the key ingredient? Patience.
"Patience, I don't know how else to approach parenting," said Robison.
Now Robison and Miles are taking their new baby home, and starting their journey of parenting lessons.
"I think we're ready, I hope we're ready," said Robison.
If you want to talk to someone, you can call the parenting hotline at 1-800-356-5395 or 1-800-840-6537.