A new study says if parents tell their teens all about their past drug and alcohol use, those kids are less likely to see drinking and drugs as a bad thing, and end up using themselves.
It found in comparison, children who were just taught the dangers were more likely to show an anti-drug attitude.
More than 500 sixth, seventh and eighth grade students were asked about conversations they had with their parents regarding alcohol, smoking and pot. Then, kids were asked about their thoughts and experiences.
Researchers found when parents were honest, even when trying to teach a lesson, kids seemed to miss the point.
The study was published in the Journal of Human Communication and Research.
Locally, most parents we spoke with told us they disagree with the study.
"I was honest with my daughter," said Lisa Borders. "I knew she was mature enough to handle it, but I also wanted to open up that dialogue because I thought it would help her make better choices. Then, maybe if anything ever does happen she won't be afraid to be honest with me."
"I am so glad she was honest with me," said Borders' 9th grade daughter, Hanna. "It has helped me make good choices."
Other parents say its a double edge sword, and hard to tell your kids do as I say, not as I do.
Meanwhile all counselors and DARE officers we spoke with told us they feel honesty is the best policy, if the child is mature enough to handle it. They also say you should stress consequences when you talk to your kids and never glorify alcohol or drugs.